Divorce
is a tough time for a family. With the divorce lawyers talking all
complicated terms and facts and it is logical that in such a time the
mother loses out on her calm and makes a few mistakes. These are a
few mistakes you should avoid.
- Mistake 1
Thinking
that "equality" means that each of you should be an equal
breadwinner and equally share the housework. Assuming this is
possible but not true. Only one of you is going to get pregnant
and suffer the hits to your career and the risks to your physical
health dividing everything else in half is not "equality".
- Mistake 2.
Using
two incomes to pay for major fixed costs such as housing, insurance,
automobiles, and related recurring expenses that cannot be
substantially reduced in the event of disability, job loss, or
divorce. While married, even if he loses his income, yours is then
available as a supplement. Even if you are a stay-home spouse, you
remain available to pitch in and get a job if need be.
- Mistake 3.
Having
joint credit cards and other debts. Just don't do it. Keep these
separate. It may not be possible to not jointly sign on to home
mortgage debt but generally it is possible to avoid other kinds of
joint debt. Have your own cards, and don't use them for anything your
own income wouldn't easily cover. This will also reduce the paper
work for your San Antonio divorce lawyer.
- Mistake 4.
Working
for free in his business. Don’t
pitch and help without getting paid or having legal proof for the
amount of time spent in in the welfare of your husband’s business.
In case of divorce this can form the basis for the best San Antonio divorce lawyer to
fight for what is yours. Because after separation what was “ours”
will become his. And all the time and energy you spent will go
wasted.
- Mistake 5.
Relocating
to follow him to a foreign country, or a state in which you do not
have friends and support systems or job opportunities, or to any
other isolated or remote locale in which you are unsure you may want
to stay.
If your marriage breaks down in the new location, you and the
children may be stuck there for a very long time. (And if you have
minor children, do not ever, ever, ever move -- or bring them even
temporarily for a visit -- to any country such as Saudi Arabia with
Muslim sharia laws in which, because you are a woman, your freedom to
travel, and your authority over your own children, including leaving
with them, can be restricted.) Don't have a baby in an iffy new
location, a state (or country) in which you may not want to live for
the next 18 years. The state where you give birth has initial
jurisdiction over your child, and once you've lived in a new location
for the jurisdictional period of time (as short as six months), that
state also has jurisdiction over you and your other children born
elsewhere.
Keeping following things and avoiding the above mentioned errors will
help you get a smooth divorce and will help you overcome some of the
common issues. Also, it makes the job easier for your San Antonio divorce attorney.
